Signs of Unhealthy Interpersonal Boundaries

Developing and understanding your own interpersonal boundaries is a vital way to maintain positive relationships. Certain behaviors can often serve as a tell-tale sign that you may have unhealthy interpersonal behaviors. If you believe that any of these behaviors are applicable to you in everyday life, you may want to exercise and practice on improving those boundaries.

  1. Over-sharing with others.
  2. Talking at an intimate level at a first meeting.
  3. Falling in love with a new acquaintance.
  4. Falling in love with anyone who reaches out to you.
  5. Being overwhelmed by a person- preoccupied by them and their problems and fixated on wanting to help them.
  6. Acting on the first sexual impulse.
  7. Being sexual for your partner, not yourself.
  8. Going against personal values to please others.
  9. Not noticing or making excuses when another person displays inappropriate behaviors.
  10. Not noticing or making excuses when someone invades your boundaries.
  11. Accepting food, gifts, touch, or sex that you don’t want.
  12. Touching a person without asking.
  13. Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting.
  14. Giving as much as you can for the sake of giving.
  15. Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.
  16. Letting others direct your life.
  17. Letting others describe your reality.
  18. Letting other define you.
  19. Believing others can anticipate your needs.
  20. Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.
  21. Falling apart so someone will take care of you.
  22. Self-abuse.
  23. Sexual and physical abuse.
  24. Food and chemical abuse.