Traits for lasting relationships
“The Masters” and “The Disasters”
Fight or flight response
Bids for connection- turn toward or away
Kindness (glued couples together) and generosity or contempt, criticism and hostility
Kindness and emotional stability, most important pros doctors of satisfaction and stability-- kindness is a muscle or trait
Shared joy
Passive destruction- ignore the event
Passive construction- acknowledge in half hearted way
Active destructive- diminish good news, attack it
Active constructive- engage wholeheartedly
